What can we do daily to stay connected in our relationship?

Ever wonder why some couples look as if they are best friends while others seem to love to hate each other? Chances are the couples who are best friends implement simple daily strategies to stay emotionally in tune with one another.

Believe it or not, it only takes about six hours a week to nurture your relationship and stay connected with one another. Think about how you depart in the morning. What does it look like when you see each other after a long day? How do you say goodnight to one another? What ways do you connect with one another throughout your day?

The key is to be intentional by doing Small Things Often and turning toward one another regularly.

What are some ideas to help me nurture my relationship with my partner daily?

Express appreciation.

Tell your spouse the things that you appreciate about them. Share your gratitude for something they have done. Catch them doing something great and make sure to let them know. We all need to hear when we are doing something right. Be that person for your spouse.

Share a passionate kiss.

Kissing that lasts at least six seconds helps us to emotionally bond. This is because feel-good hormones, such as Oxytocin, are released. Kissing each other regularly can help to keep the spark alive in your relationship.

Cuddle.  

Couples that take time to cuddle have a much better sex life. Cuddling helps couples to increase emotional connection and trust with one another. Cuddling while watching a movie or when going to bed can benefit your relationship in a positive way.

Check-in.

Do you know what current stressors are impacting your partner? Setting aside twenty minutes daily to talk with one another about each other's day can increase emotional connection. Remember to just listen and not try to solve your partner's problems. Sometimes all we need is to be heard and understood.

Departures and Reunions.

How do you say good-bye to one another? What about how you greet one another when you return home? These are opportunities to be intentional in turning toward one another and cherishing one another.

As a Certified Gottman Therapist at LifeSong Counseling, I help couples improve their communication and strengthen their emotional connections using the Gottman Method in the Bellbrook, Xenia, Centerville, Beavercreek and Greater Dayton Area. Find out if I am the right fit for you. Call (937) 474-7580 or email: referrals@lifesongcounselingllc.com