How can I tell someone they need therapy?

How can I tell someone they need therapy? Listen, validate their feelings and gently encourage.

You see the signs. You notice your friend is struggling to keep up with their day-to-day tasks. You hear someone talk about their relationship problems.... over and over again. Someone is experiencing grief at the loss of a loved one. A family member seems stuck and is expressing feelings of hopelessness.

How can you tell someone they need therapy? Is it okay to bring it up? Here are some tips to consider when you want to encourage a loved one or friend to seek counseling.

1. Validate the emotions. Have empathy for the person and their experience. Say something like, "It sounds like you are feeling really stuck about.... I think it might be helpful for you if were to talk to a professional who can help you."

   
   

2. Share your own experience. If you have done counseling in the past, talk about how it was helpful and what you were able to gain from it. You don't have to tell the details of why you went, but sharing what to expect and how your therapist supported you can offer.

   
   

3. Use "I" statements. It is highly likely your loved one will become defensive if feeling criticized. Statements that criticize or start with "you" will lead the person to feel blamed for their problem. Instead of "You're losing it!" or "You're depressed and you need help," try saying, "I notice you have been struggling lately, and I need you to consider getting help. I think finding a therapist to talk to might be good for you."

   
   

4. Offer help. If the person needs help finding the right therapist or isn't sure where to start, you can assist them through the process by doing a Google search or calling some therapists in the area to ask some preliminary questions about cost and availability.

   
   

5. Be patient. Sometimes, a person is just not ready to take the next step. It can be difficult to take the risk for change. It is important to respect that and to not harp on it.

At LifeSong Counseling, I am able to help clients set boundaries, learn practice skills to manage stress, navigate conflict in relationships, and find hope and healing. If you know someone who needs this support, email referrals@lifesongcounselingllc.com or call (937) 474-7580 today.